Humans like to be liked.  It is in our DNA to be social, to have a community, and to be well-regarded.  Oftentimes, this defaults us to people-pleasing behavior even when this means that the one that does not get to have enough space/food/comfort is you.  I get it, though: I am a bona-fide people pleaser myself.  I get the need to be loved, understood and accepted.  Somewhere along the way, we have learned that being easy, helpful, or agreeable made life smoother — for others