Healthy Expat Parent

“Friendship has always depended on a certain irrational generosity. A willingness to waste time together magnificently. To listen to the same anxiety for the fifth time. To sit through silence. To remain available without agenda. And perhaps this is why adult friendship feels increasingly radical. It resists the transactional logic modern life rewards everywhere else. Because a real friend offers something profoundly rare: unoptimised presence. Family is structured by blood

It's not always about you, even when it comes to your relationship. Especially when you, your partner or the relationship itself are hurting, the explanation we grab onto as "correct" has more to do with our own fears and vulnerabilities than it does the reality of the situation; almost always, that explanation is incorrect; almost always, the true explanation has more to do with the fears and vulnerabilities rolling in all parties involved, and many of those are invisible to

Two thoughts about your people: If you're wondering who your people are, they are the ones who make your heart feel seen and your nervous system feel calm. Yes, it is that simple. And Love doesn't immediately create a home. Love has to be carefully and intentionally constructed by two patient people who feel safe to be their most real selves with each other. ~yung pueblo

You just had a disagreement with your person. This is a great time to remind yourself of something important: Remind yourself that your partner cannot read your mind. Even after years of being together, they can know your story well, they can understand your triggers and support your goals, but they cannot know the intricate and complex movement of your thoughts. Here's the thing about not being able to read minds: without knowing all of the answers, your mind starts makin