United we stand, divided they walk all over us
There is truth to the saying that a united front will be stronger than two individuals. What other statement has truth? Your child(ren) has skills that even a highly-paid terrorist negotiator would envy. Your child knows how to work each side of the table, knows strengths and weaknesses of each player, can read every poker face and – perhaps most admirable – can make any other person involved in the deal change their mind with a mere facial expression (you know that lower lip quiver gets you every time). Frighteningly effective.
What’s a parental team to do? You have to remember a few things. Probably easier said than done, in the heat of a hard-core negotiation, but this is doable. Trust me.
First, remember that you are a TEAM. There is no ‘I’ in Team. It is about a unified front (more on that, but it can, actually, be just a front), you against them, two-as-one sort of a thing. That may sound a bit harsh, but remember who your partner in crime is here. Remember who has your back, and make sure you have theirs.
Second, remember that you don’t have to agree with your spouse … but you do have to agree in front of the kids. Argue or dis