One of the things I like to ask my friends and also my clients is how they show their appreciation. This isn’t just a ‘say thank you’ like what we might tell our 5 year old when they get a gift from Grandma; instead, what methods do they use to demonstrate how they admire or treasure something? This question often catches people off-guard because this isn’t generally something they pay attention to. But it should be, especially to one trying to parent positively.
We hear about negative reinforcement and what not to do, and about what we are doing wrong. Regularly, feedback is about mistakes we have made rather than all of the things we did correct. Criticism is more common than constructive feedback, even though the latter would help bring about improvement while the former just breaks ones’ spirit. Sadly, we don’t often hear about what we do right, or how what we have done might have a positive impact on anothe