Ode to Mothers
Mothering is likely the best thing I’ve ever done, and also one of the most difficult. People will tell you this before you have kids, but it’s not a concept you can fully grasp until you have children of your own. Being a mom is an amazing gift.
Being a mom means wearing a lot of different hats, each of which deserves applause on this very special day. So here’s to you, my fellow moms! You are amazing!
M-is for every single moment you spend with your kids, and about your kids. You think about them even when they are not with you, you show off their pics on Facebook and on your phone, and you talk (perhaps incessantly) about them and their latest antics. You are proud of what they accomplish, and openly admire their skill when they create. Your moments become more about them than about you, and it’s a fair trade.
O- is for others. Without losing sight of yourself, you put others’ needs ahead of your own. Your focus on their welfare and betterment is important to you. Even the little things like who gets to use the last two squares of toilet paper in the store bathroom (them, and it’s okay because you have a tissue that is mostly clean in your bag) or the homework help you give instead of sitting down and reading your own book, it’s about others. Besides, you know you’ll get your own time after bedtime.
T- is for taking care. Care of others, sure, but also taking care with your words, your gestures and your interactions with your family. You’ll discover that words are important, and that your tone can mean everything. You tend to their food needs with nutritious meals and snacks. You tend to their emotional needs with hugs and kisses and affirmation. You tend to their mental needs with stimulating games, conversations and interactions. You tend to their physical needs with running games, and biking together, and long family walks. You nuture, you take care, and you are then when they need you.
H-is for hugs and the myriad of other ways you can give your kids the physical interactions that let them know how much they mean to you. Be it a kiss on an owie or a brush of a hand over their head, every little touch counts and adds up to equal the physical contact that every child craves. Hugging your kids – especially those that really crave physical touch – gives them nonverbal affirmation of how much you love them. Kids that know that their parents love them without reservation tend to be well-adjusted and socially adept themselves. So not only are you giving your kids the love that they deserve, you are helping to rear a well-adjusted future adult who will be a contributing member of society (and, in turn, will give back, like he is seeing that you do, because he learns from your every action).
E- is for energy that you give to your kids from the moment you get up (which is often well before they even start the pre-wake-up twitches) until their eyelids finally droop shut (and then you have your time to get things done). You fuel yourself to keep up with them and help motivate them toward what they want to accomplish and see each day. Giving them your energy is what they need to create, to step out, to try something new because they know you will be there for them if need be. Step back and let them be the ones doing, but there for support when they turn around the check. Your support and energy become an extra ounce of motivation, as it were, that can push them to try that one last thing that is just what they need to reach their goal.
R- is for recipe: every action, every interaction comes together for an amazing and individual recipe that you are creating for being a mother. We all have our own special ingredients that we put in, so it’s unique to just us. Our kids know that their mom’s recipe is the best, and appreciate it. They may not tell you every day, but they know.
Enjoy this day dedicated to moms and take a few minutes to appreciate what an amazing, unique and clever mom you are. Your family is lucky to have you.